Stories to Stretch You: A Hard Turn into Dropping out with Lauren Allen

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Welcome back to yet another installment of BetaHaus.Life! We’re thrilled to have our special guest, Lauren Allen in the studio with us today. Lauren is the host of the Corporate School Dropout Podcast, recorded here at Beta Haus Studio, & has the profound distinction of being our first client when we opened. Needless to say, we’re a bit biased, and we’re super glad to be a small part of her awesome story.
Lauren is also the CEO of her own consulting agency, Right Hand Business Coach.
Making hard turns in life can be tricky, and there are usually different elements of these turns that ring true from one person’s story to the next. Themes are shared, and patterns can emerge that signal that change is coming. As we get into Lauren’s story, you may see or hear things that sounds like your story, or you may even hear things that are familiar, and you haven’t even made a transition yet. Either way, we highly recommend subscribing to her podcast. You’ll hear so many stories of people who have made these hard turns, find encouragement and hopefully gain some inspiration for your own.

Flags for Your Journey

Lauren said that she doesn’t so much see flags when these transitions come, but she feels them rise up. She makes a very good point with this, in that these experiences are going to inherently be different for everyone. Flags are flags, but we all have different experiences, skill sets & emotional histories that form our flag-sensing radar. Lauren was born in South Carolina, grew up in Georgia, but spent the last 10 years in Denver, Colorado before moving to San Diego two years ago which spurred her entrepreneurial journey. Her corporate background is in project management, and she’s spent most of her time at the top, running projects directly for the heads of those corporations. 
Lauren’s adult life began with transition. She decided to study abroad, in London, as part of her college experience. She loved the feeling, that there was something more to college, it had to be more than just showing up in class. She formed some lifelong friendships through that transition, and it has helped to shape her viewpoint on life in a pretty foundational way.

The Best Worst Mistake

Lauren bought her first house at 25, and she still owns it, even though she hasn’t lived in it for quite some time. She didn’t find any fulfillment in buying the house. It wasn’t coming from living in her hometown, near family, and so she decided to hunt down the possibilities that her employer could offer. So, knowing essentially all of the day-to-day operations of the business, she approached her boss about options that might lay out there on the horizon. This takes a degree of boldness & a readiness for a new adventure. (It’s also a wonderful piece of evidence that you can seek more in your job, make a lane shift, and not risk yourself in the process.) 
 So, her knowledge base gave her weight within her business, and that weight and knowledge opened up doors for her to be the person to go open a new office in Dallas. But two weeks before her move, she was redirected to Denver because of office reorganization, and something that was supposed to be temporary wound up being a 10 year shift. And when the time came to move to Texas, Lauren wound up sticking with Denver. Taking next steps, while being open to making moves, allowed for new opportunities. But still no truly hard turns.

A Long Weekend on Sunset Cliffs 

Lauren had a long weekend in San Diego, just a quick trip, a little vacation. There was nothing meant to come of it other than some time by the water & a chance to relax. But as she sat there, watching the sun set, she got the feeling like everything was aligned here, it was good for her soul, as she says. And after she went home to Denver, Sunset Cliffs just stuck in her head. Being near the water wouldn’t let her go, and the call of the coast began to ring pretty loudly for Lauren.
All of the sudden, these questions of “What if I lived there?” started to come up. She started to give more time to these thoughts, and it was so much more than just the sadness that comes from ending a vacation. She evaluated those feelings, examining why she wanted to move, and after about 6 months, she started bringing in some trusted friends, bouncing the idea off of them to see what they’d say. And so she listened to people who were set to encourage her, shut out the people who were just being negative and determined that she was just ready to make a move. 

Wrapping Up Ends

There were a few unpleasant things at work that happened that created a time for a clean break, and one last project that she wanted to complete. Pairing that with the timing of selling her house, she waited until everything closed out cleanly. Lauren has a method of evaluation that involves organizing things by kind. She had a “financial bucket” a “house bucket” and a “project bucket,” and working through those different tasks helped her to organize her thoughts & efforts in wrapping up her time in Denver. But as it came, the reality & the excitement of it all sank in. 
Lauren’s mom came in to help her pack and clean and organize while she finished her obligations at work, and then stuck around through the move and helped her get set up in her cottage in Ocean Beach. Having her mom around was a great relief in that time of transition, and it allowed her to be fully present with the things that were grabbing her attention, and needed her best effort. The process of leaving Denver would have been very different if she had to handle those things on her own. Support from a loved one is an incredible gift.

Give it Two Years

When Lauren moved, everyone told her to give it two years to let the transition sink in, and to develop her networks & friendships. Throughout that adjustment period, Lauren says she had to start over several times, simply because San Diego is a transitional city for a lot of people, and the relationships she was establishing would shift when people moved away. That happens a lot here, and it becomes a part of life. She also made a point of getting involved, almost immediately, in several networking, mentoring and mastermind groups in the city. That allowed her to meet people, make connections and begin to lay the foundation for this new chapter in her life. Workshares, referrals & making new contacts all led to Lauren’s education in selling her services as a corporate business coach. That last part is still a learning process, selling her skills doesn’t necessarily come naturally, and so referrals were the preferred method of finding new clients at the beginning.
Starting a new chapter, meeting new people, starting a new business, all came together at the same time. She was always that person that people came to for help in growing and transitioning their business.
Exploring and expanding her contacts and experiences has been a wonderful new journey for Lauren, and she loves encouraging people to do the same. Seeing her clients grow and thrive through change really brings her a lot of joy. 

The Last Bits

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We’ve walked these pathways. We're looking forward to seeing you walk yours.

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